Being happy

Being happy,according to me is in one's own hands.We can often find people complaining about others as to that person behaves in a certain way which obviously they don't like, but we never see to ourselves as to we might have reacted in the same way as that person in that particular situation.We can understand that person's view point only if we come across a similar kind of situation and then we ourselves would be really shocked finding ourselves behaving in the same way,and it is at that time that we actually get to know the condition of that person and the circumstances which had forced him to do something which has made u feel bad.I have many such instances ,but it would be really nice to have yours, so comments are most welcome.